is part of life. Even though we know it exists, most of the time we are only experiencing
it when something unforeseen happens to us. The unexpected is usually a LOSS of
any kind, be it a job, money, health, house, or somebody dear to us. Usually because
we are not prepared, it hits us hard, and we have no clue on how to deal with it
or its effect. It can either make or break us. Can we prepare ourselves? Definitely
After being absent from writing for almost a year, as you can see,
I came back, but not empty-handed. I came up with and wanted to share with you a
new lesson, number #41. As many of you already know, last year, I had to learn the
biggest lesson of my life yet, which was how to deal with the loss of my
father. I am certain in such circumstances, grieving is heavy on anyone, not
only on me.
Until not long ago, I could not even think of losing someone dear
to me, without shedding tears. Honestly, I was terrified just by the idea
itself, let alone talking about it, or imagine how it would be when it happens,
or how my life will be without them. After I started practicing yoga, I slowly
changed. I was finally able to accept death and view it differently. The
meaning was not the same anymore, and it made me realize I came in this world and
I will go from here alone.
Because of this realization, how I processed everything related to my father’s death made it more bearable. I was conscious of every moment and I did not get lost in my emotions. I was in control, and by knowing I could not bring him back the only thing left for me was to celebrate his life. It was like a movie that played in my head repeatedly on how he was, how he influenced my life, how many things he taught me, etc.
Do not get me wrong, it was not easy, I cried a lot (and I still do) but those were and are tears of appreciation for everything he did and meant to me. I was so lucky and it was an honor for me to call him DAD. The void he left will never be filled, and I will miss him for the rest of my life. His blessings will be with me forever!
I comprehended it was not the death we grief but the loss, and when
I understood the subject was not taboo
anymore. How we perceive relationships in our life plays a significant role in how
we handle grief. Therefore, it is a matter of perspective, if we see them as a
way to complete us then when one leaves us we are left empty, lost, and
My point here is, in order to be prepared for everything that
comes our way, we should learn and practice throughout our life that, “what we
have does not decide who we are. Who we are decides what we have in our lives’’
(Sadhguru, 2018). It is valid regardless of the type of loss we experience, and
we should use our emotions in a creative way.